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My dear loyal readers, please brace yourselves. This post is real , raw and personal to me.

Every year, like most of you people out there, I try to “better” myself by imposing crazy expectations and restrictions on myself in the belief that I will be happier, more fit and of course find my inner peace. Isn’t that what we all want ? Inner peace ūüôā

Some of my go-to resolutions in the past have been:

exercise more

learn to use Photoshop

start meditating

and of course my favourite , stop eating cake for breakfast!


No wait the torture doesn’t end there I have more:


work on communicating better with my family and friends

do more charity work

bake and ice a 7 layer cake

be a mentor to youths in the community

become CPR certified.

Out of these¬†9 resolutions that I have made in the past few years, I have committed to only one and that’s to do more charity work. The other day¬†my husband burst my bubble and told me that its not technically¬†charity work if the recipients are your kids,¬†but in my defence it’s still my time I’m sacrificing for others sooo potatoe, batata whatever man!

To add salt to my wounds, I haven’t stopped eating cake for breakfast or exercised more. Actually, this is really screwed up but I have exercised less this year and ate MORE cake than I did last year and I still haven’t learned to use those cool photoshop tools that make my waist look smaller, my butt bigger and legs longer. No seriously, I still haven’t learned how to do any of that and I’m freaking out!.

How hard is it to watch a youtube tutorial on Photoshop and apply the techniques to my photos? Everyone else on Instagram sure knows how to use it.

On a recent playdate with Barbara my “mommy friend” and her son, this happened :

“OMG Maha what are you going to do if your kid chokes?” “Who will save him? “

Barbara had just found out that I don’t have my CPR certification and she’s shook!

Ok, I know I shouldn’t feel like the worst mom on earth but I kind of do. I just haven’t had the time to take that CPR class that I’ve been meaning to take for years now. I hope that if my kid does choke my motherly instincts¬†will kick in and¬†I will know what to do at that time. Thank god that hasn’t happened but if it does than Barbara, my “mommy friend”, ¬†I hope you’re¬†with me and you can be my kids hero and save him.*eye roll*

All joking aside, I know in my heart that I will never be able to bake and ice a 7 layer cake and since I have a really short attention span, meditation is not gong to happen. Techie YouTube tutorials are boring as hell so definitely no JLO booty for me.

As lighthearted as my new years resolutions¬†are, there is a¬†stigma attached to¬†them that If I didn’t accomplish these goals I was not worthy or¬†I was¬†lazy or I didn’t care enough for child’s health and safety.¬†With every¬†year that went by and I still hadn’t scratched any of them off my list I would fall¬†into the world of self-loathing. This is¬†a terrible, terrible place for me to be in because no one knew I was there therefore no one could get me out of it.

I am approaching 2018 with an open mind and¬†heart because my¬†mental health is no joke and neither is yours. I’m making a conscious effort to¬†nourish and take better care of it.¬†I had to burn out fast to learn that failure ( yes, I used the “F” word)¬† is normal and a big part of life.

I¬†swallowed¬†my pride¬†the moment¬†I started to write this article¬†and share my insecurities with you all. I’m at peace with this because I¬†know¬†I am not alone¬†here.¬†¬†Moving forward, I will definitely be faced with many failures and to no¬†surprise I will get up , try again, probably fail¬†again,¬†but then with perseverance succeed¬†and I will do this all with balanced physical , mental and spiritual health ūüôā

You only live once people, so make it a good one. Eat your cake, hug your family, take a vacation and be spontaneous but most of all please be genuine and kind to yourself ! You don’t have to be a superhero like Barbara, just be you!


Cheers to you and your family and I wish you an amazing 2018!!

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  • Reply Melissa

    Why would you ever want to stop eating cake for breakfast? I love This positivity and dose of reality. Thank you.

    January 4, 2018 at 9:56 am
    • Reply Maha Matar

      Thank you Melissa! I wasn’t sure I was ready to share such personal information on my blog but I think it would help others see that you don’t have to be perfect…no one is so I just said screw it! I’m letting it all out ūüôā

      January 4, 2018 at 10:03 am
  • Reply Renee C.

    Love this – great way to start 2018! i never make resolutions either – shouldn’t be a “failure” for not taking a class or baking a 7 layer cake, but I know people can get down on themselves when they realized they didn’t accomplish their “resolution”. Positive mental health is way more important!

    January 4, 2018 at 1:27 pm
  • Reply Jenan

    So many people can relate to this post myself being one of them. Keep on trying and keep writing! We love your blogs. All your tips and advice and thoughts are helping out a lot of people! ‚̧ԳŹ

    January 5, 2018 at 4:09 pm
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